It’s hard to believe that my dad has been gone for six months now. I think about him everyday. I wrote a couple of weeks back that grieving the loss of my father is still hard and that I was dreading my first Father’s Day without dad. Tomorrow is finally the big day and I’m still dreading it.
Father’s Day without Dad
I’ve also mentioned in the past that I’ve found it very hard to find any motivation to do anything lately. You can see my lack of motivation to post by seeing the timestamp on this post. It’s after 2 pm on a Saturday and here I sit writing this post. I always have my posts ready to go for the weekend by Thursday or Friday at the latest. However, I got a post done for Friday on Thursday and then quit. It’s so easy to try and find something on social media to distract me that I haven’t done a whole lot of blogging at any one time here lately. I think that’s because I’m literally trying to distract myself from missing my dad. I’ve been told that the first year without a loved one is the hardest. So, I’m hoping that the following father’s day without dad get easier.
I’ve been dreading this weekend for a month now. Today hasn’t been as hard as I anticipated, but it’s still early yet. I’m hoping I don’t break down soon. Tomorrow, I don’t plan to go out and about. I hope that by being with loved ones, I can cope with the loss on my own. It doesn’t mean that I won’t miss dad or it won’t be hard. I just don’t think I could handle going out and seeing everyone else celebrating the day with their dad.
So, if you’ve lost your dad, how do you handle father’s day without dad? Do you ignore the day or do you do something in remembrance of him?
Sandy Cain says
It’s terrible, Lindsay. My Dad crossed over in June 2000, (he was BURIED on Father’s Day – that man’s timing was always so awful). So it’s really a double whammy for me – Father’s Day right around the anniversary of his death. So here we are, 13 years later, and I still am trying to deal with it. What I did, shortly after he crossed over was to post this: http://www.behindthebadge.net/bloodstripes/memory/mem_g.html (scroll down to Greenspan), as my Dad always talked about his time in the Army, and how proud he was to be a WWII vet. It’ll slowly get a little easier as the years go by, for you – but it’ll always hurt. ((((HUGS))))
Robin Wilson says
Sweetie ~ I wish I could say that it will never be hard, but it will be always hard however it will get easier with time. The loss of a parent is only surpassed by the loss of a child in my opinion. It’s hard because we love and miss him. I have you in my prayers.
Heather Kelly says
I haven’t lost my father. But I live in TN, he lives in CA. So everyday is a day, without my father. I can call him, true. I went to see both my parents in CA with just my youngest child, for one whole week, the last week of May. But it’s not the same as having him close. My dad and I are close, and I miss him terribly.
Maryann D. says
It has been a month since my dad passed so I am still grieving and I knew I was not looking forward to this day. I have to wish my husband a Happy Father’s Day, but I am really not celebrating. I will just think of my dad and know that his memories will always be with me and also your dad’s memories are always going to be with you.
Brenda Williams says
Father’s Day and every other “first event” without your Dad is going to be very difficult. I wish I could tell you that it will get better with time, but I think you will find that some days will be better than others. I lost my Dad 40 years ago this coming August. He had just turned 40 in July and passed away at 40 years 1 month and 5 days. I was 19 when he passed. I still miss him when big events in my life happen…the birth of children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, marriages, etc. I ALWAYS find my self getting depressed around the first of July because that was his birthday and my son shares the same birthday so it is bitter sweet. My suggestion to you is to pay tribute to your Dad by writing stories about him, telling things that happened during his lifetime that you remember. During this process you will laugh and cry at things that pop into your head. My little brother was 3 when my Dad passed and he has no memory of him and has ask me to “tell” him about Dad. My children and grandchildren never knew him so by writing little short stories or things about him I will honor his memory by sharing him with all those people. Sending you lots of love today. Hugs.
Pamela Fontaine-Peters says
I lost my dad 30 years ago when I was a teenager and I still feel a profound pang of loss on Father’s Day. I look through pictures, relive happy memories and remind my fiends who still have their dad to give him an extra hug for those of us who don’t. Know that many hearts are joined with yours today and always. Thanks for the post and the comments left here.- reminders we are, none of us, alone in our grief.